How the fuck should i relax myself? I recently just broke up with my boyfriend and he was the one who initiated it. I am lost. I fucking love him so much. He left me cause he has had it with my attitude. I've been trying hard to change while with him. Sigh. Now i need help in calming down. I still have that little hope in me that we'll be together again someday. I just need to fucking push that sadness away for a moment, but i don't fucking know how.. ): asked by breakfastformafia
breakfastformafia, I really do fucking sympathize. I’m on a “break” right now with my significant fucking other, and I’m losing my fucking mind. I can totally fucking relate. With that in fucking mind, I’m seriously trying not to get fucking emotional right now and give you some solid fucking advice. Because that’s what I fucking do. I give amazing fucking advice. The feeling of “loss” or being fucking “lost” is probably the most common fucking feeling when a relationship ends. Whether you’re aware of it or not, they fucking take away a part from you, and you fucking become someone a little bit different than yourself, before you fucking met them. Then when they’re out of your fucking life, you feel like you have to fucking relearn how to be yourself, and I can fucking testify that this feeling fucking sucks. In all fucking fairness, did he confront you about your attitude? Did he fucking ask you to change it or he was through with you? Did he fucking initiate anything that made you mad where you felt the need to throw fucking attitude? Or were there times where you were over fucking reacting and throwing attitude where it wasn’t justly deserved? These are the fucking questions you need to ask yourself. You said you were trying hard to fucking change while you were with him, but if he couldn’t fucking appreciate that change, or understand that it takes fucking time and hard work for you to do so… maybe he’s not the fucking guy you thought he was. In my fucking relationship, when all of this fucking “break” mess started, I spiraled out of fucking control a little. My moods were up and fucking down. Crying myself to sleep every fucking night. There are times where the pain is fucking manageable, but then there’s times where the pain fucking had me doubled over. Things are a little bit fucking better now for me, but I’m still fucking hurting and I can’t fucking wait until this “break” is over. Whether it causes the ultimate fucking end to my relationship, or a new fucking beginning. It’s tough but I fucking feel like you need someone to talk more in depth about this, a close fucking friend or two. You need to keep fucking talking about it and your feelings, until you get into a right fucking place. If you don’t want to fucking loose him ask him if this could be a fucking “break” of sorts, that you love him and that you fucking want him in your life. That you will take this time to fucking work on yourself and your attitude, but in all fucking seriousness you wish that you were still with him and fucking hope that he can see that. The best thing to fucking do is literally grab a close fucking friend have a sleep over, cry, vent, talk, laugh, eat, watch movies and try not to fucking think about it. Go for a fucking walk, have a nice hot shower or bath, do stuff that makes you fucking feel normal and safe. There’s no fucking surefire way to push away the fucking sadness of a relationship that has come to an end. If there was I’m pretty fucking sure it’d be pretty fucking well known by now. I really hope you can take it fucking easy, the first day is fucking awful, the second day is fucking atrocious, and the third day is fucking terrible. But that fourth fucking day is where you can fucking manage that sadness. It’s gonna fucking take time to heal, but it’s gonna have to get fucking worse before it gets better. Keep in mind that this will fucking pass, and you still have a life you fucking need to live right now. Best of luck hun, I really fucking feel for you. I hope you are able to fucking work things out soon.